Danifred wrote a post recently about manners, essentially.
And it got me thinking, because we get comments quite often about how Gianna regularly and appropriately uses manners. I don’t actually understand the nature of such comments because I feel like it’s all just very normal behavior and expectations.
A few of the things we just do/have built in to our daily routine/ways we help Gianna to be polite and respectful:
1 - we use ma'am and sir when appropriate, we don't quite enforce it yet, but she has picked it up for sure. I don’t think she needs to call me or mike or anyone that is constant in her life sir or ma’am, so this really doesn’t come up often for us. I’m sure as she gets older it will make more sense to begin using it in the right context. She actually gets mad if you say ma’am to her – she’ll say “I am GIANNA, not a MA’AM!”
2 - we use Miss/Mr First Name - but honestly, we are the ONLY Of our friends who do this. We get weird looks sometimes but most people go with it. It’s important for her to know that we are respectful of people and I feel this is a good way to demonstrate that.
3 - I always have Gianna introduce herself (usually she needs no prompting, she’s not exactly shy!)- she loves to say "Hi, My name is Gianna. Nice ta meetcha"! and she shakes whoevers hand!
4 - we are working on interrupting right now, she needs to know that is disrespectful and to wait her turn. and to say "excuse me" if it's REALLY important and she can't wait! This has really come to light after she recently literally stood between Mike and I and said “HEY!” while we were talking about something!
5 – I’ll step in to discipline or redirect other kids, especially when other kids could get hurt/that kid could get hurt etc., if parents are no where to be seen and/or are oblivious to what's going on.
6 – She asks to be excused from the table. And clears her plates. (sometimes this actually works AGAINST me because she will throw ALL of her food away so she doesn’t have to eat dinner. ya. awesome)
7 – we always use please, thank you, you’re welcome. Again, this sometimes works against me because if she doesn’t want to do something (i.e. eat dinner) she says “no tank you” very matter of factly. And she still signs please, which just KILLS me. And has recently added “pretty please” to her list of things that make you go AWWWW.
What about you? What are your feelings on kids and manners and all that jazz?
I don’t get mad if she doesn’t follow through totally on things, but I know she is learning and picking up on all of it because I have to remind her MUCH less (hardly ever, actually) about any of - it’s all just very normal and that is EXACTLY what I wanted. It SHOULD be normal to say please!